Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Some thoughts that have been running amok

Genesis 2:18 "Then the Lord God said "It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper who is like him."
Genesis 2:22 "Then the Lord God made the rib He had taken from the man into a woman and brought her to the man."

    Things that have been running through my mind:
       1: Man was not meant to live alone, he is meant to have a partner, that partner is meant to be a woman
       2: She is not to be "ruled" over by her partner, they are meant to be equal because woman came from a mans rib.
        3: Women are there to help and support their partner.

Man needs a companion. People have felt this truth since the dawn of time. There is still a need for this connection even in this technology filled age, we see it everywhere. Dating sites bombard the advertising business and social networking sites try to find and recommend people "you may know". But yet to make a real connection with someone you have to drop the technology and speak with them, one on one. You can't simply know someone by repeatedly looking over their websites or pages. Knowing someone takes getting your hands dirty in the human condition and understanding where they come from, what they want, and especially what they are saying between the lines. People are messy, they often don't know really what they want, but someone who can pick their way carefully through what someone says or doesn't say can often understand more than what the other is saying.

A woman is not to be ruled over or controlled by her partner. Woman came from man yes, but she came from his side. Under his arm to be protected by him, next to his heart to be loved by him, and next to him so they can walk together, not one leading and the other following. They are meant to be equal partners. She is meant to be his helper in everything, not just in a physical release. She is meant to be there for him in everything that happens. In this I am often reminded of the Shield Maidens that would often accompany the men in the Viking culture. These women would leave behind their homes, hearths and many times children to fight with their husbands in battle and to protect him from blows that he might not see coming. She literally protects his back.

This is what women are meant to do.

I hate hearing men say that their women try to change them. Women are there to help their partners, not completely alter who they are. People get those two mixed up because women are meant to be there to bring out the best in her partner. Often a woman not only sees and understands how her partner operates, she can see below the surface that he presents to the world. Below that surface the woman can see the man that her partner could become. In most scenarios this man that she sees is a better version. Someone who cares, provides and defends his family. Women do not try to change her partner, if she is with him she loves the man he is. Instead she is only trying to help him to be the best version of himself.

She fell in love with who he truly is, even if he can't see what is inside of himself.

The saying "behind every great man is a woman rolling her eyes" is true, and anyone who hears it knows this. Women are meant to bring joy, love, balance and happiness to her partners life. And in return a man should appreciate everything she has to offer, because a females heart is a mystery that cannot be understood in a short time, no. To truly understand a woman means to listen without judgement to her thoughts and feelings, to simply be present with her, to understand how she sees things, and to understand that even if you can't see something about yourself, that she does and she wants to aid you on your journey -not trample and control you. Women don't want to change their partner, they want the best for them and for their families.